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Kevin's Rules for Dating

Having been back on the market for about eight months now, I've noticed that I've developed a certain set of rules based on the changes I've seen in the dating landscape.

Actually, maybe nothing's changed. Maybe I just never encountered these issues before, but either way, I realized I needed to set down some sort of rulebook just to keep all my new guidelines straight.

The issue isn't that I meet a lot of jerks. On the contrary, I meet a lot of really nice guys, which makes things that much tougher. On the surface, a date with a nice guy should automatically lead to a second date, right?

Well, that's a little tricky.

I'd forgotten--because truthfully, I'd never been on dates with that many nice guys before--that someone being nice isn't the only qualification for a successful pairing.

Mainly, I'm looking for someone who can make me laugh. I never thought this would be such a hard quality to find in someone, but I guess I have a tougher sense of humor than I thought.

Usually, if someone's getting me to lighten up, then it's all gravy from there.

That being said, there are some ground rules I'm shocked I've had to make:

~ I don't date guys in "open relationships." If you've decided something like that works for you, then great, but it's not going to work for me.

~ I'm not going to be the "in-between" guy. If you want to see me in between the four relationships you've had in three months, no luck.

~ I'm not dating people who tell me how much better I look now than I did five years ago. If you didn't like me five years ago, I can promise you that you're not going to like who I am. And Current Kevin is very protective of Past Kevin.

I'm also not interested in guys who want to rush to an immediate relationship. I'd rather sit back, relax, and see how things go.

Isn't getting there supposed to be half the fun?

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